Valentines and elections,
Marriages and lives …
All are lost from little things, not big.
Each decision we make impacts our lives for the long haul.
We are the only person in the world who is 100% impacted by every single choice we make.
My dad would say, “If you don’t have time to do it right the first time, how will you have time to do it over and fix it?”
It’s the little things:
The bill you forgot to mail
The brake you forgot to set
The alarm you forgot to change
The vote you didn’t bother casting
Little things eat up our relationships and our lives:
The I Love You that wasn’t said
The birthday card you didn’t send
The gas tank you didn’t fill
The hug you withheld
The wedding invite you forgot
The thank you note you didn’t write
When things slip our minds, our lives become chaotic:
The fish dinner trash that didn’t make it outside before a trip
The oven left on overnight
The hose that ran for hours straight
The tire you didn’t check
The oil you didn’t change
The keys left in the ignition
The candle left burning
Some little things we do and regret
The email we shouldn’t have sent
The snarky comment that shouldn’t have left your lips
That one extra donut, day after day
The “one more for the road” that caused the crash
Answering “just this one text” that rolled your car
“They will never find out…” and they always do…
Try these Solutions:
“We are what we repeatedly do.
Excellence is not an act, it’s a habit.” ~ Aristotle
Create habits to keep you on track.
˜ When you get out of your car, hold your keys in your hand and say “Keys.”
˜ Write a checklist for your trips and use them every time
˜ If you have events that repeat, create a checklist for them
˜ Put your house keys, car keys, glasses, phone and any other item you frequently misplace in the same spot.
˜ Get in the habit of always putting things away as soon as you’re done with them.
˜ Get a large black metal clip. As each bill comes in, using a black sharpie pen, write the date due in the upper right corner. Clip the bills together in order of due date.
˜ When you get an item for your inbox, put a date due in the top right corner and keep all inbox items in order according to that due date.
Use Rituals to remind you of values that are important to you
˜ 11:11 – when you see this on the clock, stop for one minute and do your “gratitudes.”
˜ Develop a trigger question: “How will I feel in three days if I do/buy/say this?”
˜ Save every “complicated” message or email in a draft folder for 24 hours before hitting the Send key.
Use Rituals to get and stay healthy
˜ Stretch in bed before you get out of bed
~ Practice deep breathing at least once a day
~ Do face exercises every day.
˜ Have at least one “TV-free” day a week (if you have no TV, then make it one internet-free day.)
˜ Set a timer and make sure you get up and move around at least once an hour.
It IS a big thing because it’s your life. Take care of yourself this valentine’s week whether or not you’re in a relationship – the biggest relationship you have is with yourself. When you’re healthy, we all win.
© 2014 Beth Terry, CSP • All Rights Reserved