She sat across from me at the restaurant and went down the list of her failures: in relationships, career, family, personal goals. Girlfriends do this with each other … we listen and let our friends vent.
It’s good for us: raises the oxytocin levels and all that. Then she said plaintively, “Can I just get a do-over?”
I realized I wanted one, too. We’re spoiled in this digital age. We have delete keys, reset buttons, the ability to stop a movie in the middle and go back to it later when we have time.
Anyone who says, “I have no regrets” is either lying, has amnesia, or is a narcissist. We live, we do things, we make mistakes. That’s life.
I thought of my own list. If you are over 25, you have one. The more years gathering behind you, the longer the list. Anyone who says, “I have no regrets” is either lying, has amnesia, or is a narcissist. We live, we do things, we make mistakes. That’s life.
We are also wonderful, compassionate, and capable of great love and great moments of inspiration. And while we don’t exactly come with a reset button, we do come with an apology button. We have the ability to learn from the hiccups and self-imposed landmines along the way. We can go back to people we have harmed – intentionally or not – and ask their forgiveness (whether they give it or not is none of our concern.) We can learn a lesson or two from the unexplored potential and unmet goals.
Most importantly, we can go forward. As long as there is breath, we can put one foot in front of the other and start anew.
You can’t ReSet – but you can ReStart
Don’t worry about doing anything OVER. Decide to do something new.
Choose to try again in a different and new way.
You don’t have a reset button.
But you DO have a RESTART button.
Be grateful this year for what you have, what you have learned, who you have loved, and who you have in your life who will forgive you and allow you to grow.
To good health and happiness in the days to come,
© 2013 Beth Terry, CSP • All Rights Reserved. May be shared with attribution