Can I have a Do-over?

She sat across from me at the restaurant and went down the list of her failures: in relationships, career, family, personal goals. Girlfriends do this with each other … we listen and let our friends vent. It’s good for us: Continue reading Can I have a Do-over?

Setting Boundaries ~ Creating Resilient Kids

While waiting for my sandwich at a restaurant I watched the 20-year old behind the counter. Not once did he make eye contact. He was completely lost in a simple human-to-human contact situation. Looking around I saw tables filled with Continue reading Setting Boundaries ~ Creating Resilient Kids

Motivation is Tricky Business

We think we know how to motivate other people, but when it comes to getting ourselves out of the chair, away from the ice cream and into the gym we aren’t all that great. I thought if you find something Continue reading Motivation is Tricky Business

If you don’t tell them, they make it up!

Humans are ornery creatures, and we are a curious species. We take all  information available to us, then we fill in the blanks. Therein lies the problem in human relations. Filling in the blanks is not always a conscious exercise, Continue reading If you don’t tell them, they make it up!

How to Succeed: Embrace Imperfection!

Hawaii, with its Asian influence, has afforded many deep insights into finding peace and happiness within. A concept I heard decades ago has crossed my path half a dozen times this year: Wabi Sabi. A friend just sent me Arielle Continue reading How to Succeed: Embrace Imperfection!

Best You Can…

He sat on the sidelines watching bemused as we whirled and twirled to the live country music. Wizened and slight, he had to be in his mid-90’s. His eyes twinkled as he studied our steps. When the band stopped and Continue reading Best You Can…

Social Media is the Bar Scene from Star Wars™

Cyberspace is packed with characters, weirdos, sweethearts, fascinating writers, boring idiots, stalkers, criminals, and hacks. And they all gather at the pool bar called Social Media. It’s fascinating and time consuming, sometimes time-wasting to hang out there. And it has Continue reading Social Media is the Bar Scene from Star Wars™

The Myth That Causes Much Despair

MYTH: “The World Is/Should Be Fair”  This idea gets in our way and blocks forward movement. No. The world is not fair. The world is only FAIR in that it is governed by a set of natural laws. For each Continue reading The Myth That Causes Much Despair

The Comfort of Real Friendship

Olaf Isaachsen once said, “I like you to the extent that I’m comfortable with myself in your presence.” If we look at our close friends – not business contacts or acquaintances, we know their real gift to us is the Continue reading The Comfort of Real Friendship

5 Tips to Keep From Going Insane During the Holidays

Face it. The holidays make us all a little crazy. Deep in the recesses of our minds we long for that magic when we were kids, before we figured out “Santa” was just dad or a crazy uncle or the Continue reading 5 Tips to Keep From Going Insane During the Holidays