So – Day 13 of the New Year. How you doin’ with those resolutions? If they were written out of frustration with yourself, I’ll bet you aren’t on track. It works better to write goals in anticipation of great new changes rather than from being Continue reading New You Resolutions
She sat across from me at the restaurant and went down the list of her failures: in relationships, career, family, personal goals. Girlfriends do this with each other … we listen and let our friends vent. It’s good for us: raises the oxytocin levels and Continue reading Can I have a Do-over?
While waiting for my sandwich at a restaurant I watched the 20-year old behind the counter. Not once did he make eye contact. He was completely lost in a simple human-to-human contact situation. Looking around I saw tables filled with teens and twenty-somethings staring at Continue reading Setting Boundaries ~ Creating Resilient Kids
We think we know how to motivate other people, but when it comes to getting ourselves out of the chair, away from the ice cream and into the gym we aren’t all that great. I thought if you find something you love to do, the Continue reading Motivation is Tricky Business
Humans are ornery creatures, and we are a curious species. We take all information available to us, then we fill in the blanks. Therein lies the problem in human relations. Filling in the blanks is not always a conscious exercise, and we are not always Continue reading If you don’t tell them, they make it up!
Hawaii, with its Asian influence, has afforded many deep insights into finding peace and happiness within. A concept I heard decades ago has crossed my path half a dozen times this year: Wabi Sabi. A friend just sent me Arielle Ford’s book Wabi Sabi Love Continue reading How to Succeed: Embrace Imperfection!
He sat on the sidelines watching bemused as we whirled and twirled to the live country music. Wizened and slight, he had to be in his mid-90’s. His eyes twinkled as he studied our steps. When the band stopped and canned music played a slower Continue reading Best You Can…
Cyberspace is packed with characters, weirdos, sweethearts, fascinating writers, boring idiots, stalkers, criminals, and hacks. And they all gather at the pool bar called Social Media. It’s fascinating and time consuming, sometimes time-wasting to hang out there. And it has become the focus around which Continue reading Social Media is the Bar Scene from Star Wars™
MYTH: “The World Is/Should Be Fair” This idea gets in our way and blocks forward movement. No. The world is not fair. The world is only FAIR in that it is governed by a set of natural laws. For each action there is an equal Continue reading The Myth That Causes Much Despair
Olaf Isaachsen once said, “I like you to the extent that I’m comfortable with myself in your presence.” If we look at our close friends – not business contacts or acquaintances, we know their real gift to us is the comfort they bring us. True Continue reading The Comfort of Real Friendship